{"id":782,"date":"2015-07-14T03:43:28","date_gmt":"2015-07-14T10:43:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/janetkayfetz.com\/?p=782"},"modified":"2015-07-14T03:43:28","modified_gmt":"2015-07-14T10:43:28","slug":"how-can-i-get-my-team-to-see-me-as-a-critical-team-member","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/riggscreative.com\/clients\/dev1\/how-can-i-get-my-team-to-see-me-as-a-critical-team-member\/","title":{"rendered":"How can I get my team to see me as a critical team member?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Here is my response to a question about communication style in the workplace:<\/p>\n

\u201cHow can I get my team to see me as a critical team member? I’m the youngest person in the office by several years and find it hard to get them to treat me as their equal.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

My thoughts are that no matter what your age, \u201cbeing taken seriously\u201d is a mutually negotiated subtlety of\u00a0communication, a kind of contract between participants. Angie\u2019s commitment would be to be an engaged and authentic listener; prepared and on time for meetings;\u00a0respectful; making appropriate eye contact; and so on.<\/p>\n

But Angie cannot control the attitudes and behaviors of colleagues, who should be equally respectful and engaged.\u00a0In the ideal, all parties would listen, think, respond, and be open to all opinions, age notwithstanding<\/p>\n

For all of us, a critical thing to remember is that others will form opinions about us based on many subconscious perceptions — perceptions that get filtered through the listener\u2019s belief systems.<\/p>\n

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Details like what a speaker looks like, whether she has an \u201caccent,\u201d how she manages things like eye contact, turn-taking, interrupting, politeness signals in speech, volume, and so on. All of these communicative threads come together and have an impact on a listener\/colleague.<\/p>\n

So my advice for Angie is to master all of these communicative threads.<\/p>\n

Study how you communicate at every level, and make changes that make you a more excellent communicator. How do you enter a room? How do you greet colleagues? How loudly\/softly do you speak? How\/when do you interrupt? How long are your responses to straightforward questions? Do you always piggy back on someone else\u2019s response, making their response appear to be incomplete or incorrect? Are you paying attention or fiddling with your phone? Are you on topic when you add something to the discussion? What is your tone — are you respectful? sarcastic? humorous? critical? And so on.<\/p>\n

I hope some of these ideas are helpful. Good luck Angie!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Here is my response to a question from \u201cAngie\u201d about communication style in the workplace:<\/p>\n

\u201cHow can I get my team to see me as a critical team member? I’m the youngest person in the office by several years and find it hard to get them to treat me as their equal.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

My thoughts are that no matter what your age, \u201cbeing taken seriously\u201d is a mutually negotiated subtlety of\u00a0communication, a kind of contract between participants. Angie\u2019s commitment would be to be an engaged and authentic listener; prepared and on time for meetings;\u00a0respectful; making appropriate eye contact; and so on.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-782","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-great-presentations","category-thoughts"],"yoast_head":"\nHow can I get my team to see me as a critical team member? - wasatchfrontwasteandrecyclingdistrict.qrplanet.com<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/riggscreative.com\/clients\/dev1\/how-can-i-get-my-team-to-see-me-as-a-critical-team-member\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"How can I get my team to see me as a critical team member? - wasatchfrontwasteandrecyclingdistrict.qrplanet.com\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Here is my response to a question from \u201cAngie\u201d about communication style in the workplace: \u201cHow can I get my team to see me as a critical team member? 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